In her latest post a blogger writes about the growing distance with a friend.
I thought I will go through the same with Wannabe as we got involved in our own lives - but then we started chatting again and now we are back regularly in touch...
I have gone through the quite severe cuts with 2 of them - I found one of them back again. One of them and I had been friends since we were 4 years old and kept the same level of friendships inspite of living in different cities (our parents used to despair about the telephone bills) until I went to study away from home - I used to send her letters to which I never received any replies and after her marriage I even stopped trying - later I found this was at a time when she needed a friend the most but never had a chance to ask since she was restricted. Now we are back in touch again and I am happy to get to talk to her.
The second one is irrepairable now and the coldness when we meet kills me each time we meet even accidently. I am now going through the 3-rd one and I keep trying not to let it go and I think that strengthens the power with which it gets severed. I fear it is going down to the same level as the 2-nd one - I hope not but there comes the "self-respect" part after a certain time.
In her blog, she writes at the end "It hurts that she doesn’t want anything to do with me, that she finds it so easy to just dismiss the times we spent together. Worst of all it haunts me that I never tried hard enough to keep in touch with her."
Dear blogger who wrote this, I just want to tell you based on my latest experience which I am going through now - if you tried hard enough to keep in touch with her, would she not just try even harder to cut you off? or rather are you not exposed to the rejection even more as you try to maintain the relationship? What about the hurt associated with rejection and the lack of respect? Don't you wonder - What are the reasons?
I also wonder - "do those moments we spent together mean nothing at all?" I mean, why are we the ones always trying?